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Do women have to moan to feel pleasure during sex?

First of all I'm a virgin, so I can't tell. In movies and porn the female sometimes moans but I wouldn't consider that a reliable source. When I have sex, I wouldn't want to moan! It will just make me sound weak and objectified. When I masturbate or get turned on, I don't make any noises. Also when I have sex, I want to be tops, I think laying down with your legs wide open in a frog position looks terrible. I think a lot about sex, so this has been bugging me a lot lately. Also don't judge me! I'll report anyone who makes a joke about this.
 uploaded900 posted over a year ago
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Sinna_Hime_chan said:
Noises vary just as dominance can vary, and from person to person, it isn't something we get to pick, it is just something that happens. I don't mind those "roles" - all those things are a turn ON to me. Some people are vocal. Other people are not. I think sound also depends on mood. I can be quite loud and this is not something I can control when I am with a partner.- but alone and with my lack of privacy I am just not able to get into the same way...not that either way is less pleasurable....
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Noises vary just as dominance can vary, and from person to person, it isn't something we get to pick, it is just something that happens. I don't mind those "roles" - all those things are a turn ON to me. Some people are vocal. Other people are not. I think sound also depends on mood. I can be quite loud and this is not something I can control when I am with a partner.- but alone and with my lack of privacy I am just not able to get into the same way...not that either way is less pleasurable....
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so many sounds... and it isn't a choice -itjust happens, but yes, you can be verbal other ways like just talking-or talking dirty...
Sinna_Hime_chan posted over a year ago
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O3O Ohhhhhh I like your answer <3333333 yes true I love your naughty noises >/////<
DarkCruz360 posted over a year ago
bri-marie said:
Women (and men) don't moan to feel pleasure, they moan because they are feeling pleasure.

I'm actually pretty loud in bed. And I greatly enjoy when my partner is pretty loud (or at least makes some noise). I don't feel weak and objectified, and it doesn't make my partner sound (or feel) weak or objectified. I actually find that implication slightly offensive.
The sounds let me know that whatever I'm doing in pleasurable for my partner, and it lets my partner know what they're doing is pleasurable for me.

While I greatly support porn, I'll be the first to admit that it is the last place you should base all your feelings on sex from. Many things that happen in porn are purely for theatrics -- the sounds, positions, and certain shots are greatly over-exaggerated.
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I agree with this completely. I also think that in a way, moaning can be empowering, a person's way of telling someone else what to do - and what not to do. I also just want to add here that when you finally DO have sex, preconceptions and misgivings you may have could go out the window. When I was a virgin, I used to be totally against the idea of receiving oral sex, but I have since come around to the idea. Everything is different when you're in the moment.
Cinders posted over a year ago
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I dont like the sound of it. I would rather yell out stuff than moan. I think it sounds bad and i can express my feeling s in other ways s. i also would want to be the dominate one
uploaded900 posted over a year ago
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And that's fine,uploaded, if you think moaning isn't going to be your thing. There's lots of 'noises' people make during sex -- it's not just moaning. Yelling, screaming, talking, grunting are all sounds people make.
bri-marie posted over a year ago
loYol said:
No, you don't have to. Some women are quiet in bed, some aren't.
Also, your preferences might change when you actually start having sex.
Moaning really doesn't make a person sound "weak and objectified," it usually encourages your partner to let them know what you like.
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can i just say it?
uploaded900 posted over a year ago
jester616 said:
You don't have to make any sounds, but usually it's involuntary. Something just feels so good, and it's an immediate reaction. Movies and porn emphasize the sounds for effect, as most people do find the sounds from sex to be arousing. In real life, based on surveys, so take that with a grain of salt, most respondents like hearing their partners make sounds of pleasure. Complete silence makes them think they're doing something wrong. But...if you're not comfortable making noises, don't feel that you "have" to.
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KJBiggestFan said:
Most of the women in porn are more or less faking half of the moans. (Or all, depends.)

No, not all women have to moan to feel pleasure during sex, some don't make noise at all- not because it doesn't feel good, but just because they just aren't much of a noise-maker. However it does feel better to some to let them out if you have to. It depends on the person. :)
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kaytieedowg said:
no, in movies and porn vids the girls moan to exaggerate the pleasure. but some people are quiet in bed and others moan. moaning can turn your man on and show him the places where you like to be touched or watever
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tayza333 said:
well i moan but my bf does me hard so....... yeah xx

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DarkCruz360 said:
Both male and female can make moans, grunts, panty-noises ect. I like it when females make naughty noises and it really turns me on, especially my gf I really love her moans and other naughty noises. Just to let you know I'm a guy though I too make naughty noises it does turn my gf every little breathing I take so yeah there's some people can make noises even though they sometimes can't control it.
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boytoy_84 said:
Not all the time women can be quiet as well, they moan to know it feels good and men can also moan too. most couples like to moan cuz they know it's pleasing and great feeling to their genitals.
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Not all the time women can be quiet as well, they moan to know it feels good and men can also moan too. most couples like to moan cuz they know it's pleasing and great feeling to their genitals.
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sassy17716 said:
I'm not being condecending with my list, I just like to answer questions seperatly.... excuse my weirdness.
1.) Not at all. Noise during sex is not manditory for pleasure or an orgasm to occur though it does make it more fun.
2.) It will not make you any less or make you look weak by making noise and can actually add to the enjoyment as he or she will know that you are enjoying yourself as well.
3.) Sex feels different than mastrurbating, and the noises are not always something that can be helped.
4.) For losing your virginity I would not recomend being on top because you tense and that makes it hurt for the first time because of stretching and for most the tearing of the hyman. After the original action though feel free to explore :)
I'm not exceptionally experienced myself but I don't imagine it being all that different for everyone else. Hope it helps!
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